For Singles: Things To Do While Waiting For The Right Partner
My favorite preacher, Pastor Joseph Prince, said something that struck a chord. He said that rather than pray for the perfect partner, pray for God’s appointed partner (paraphrased). Now, with the way failed marriages are on the rise, I think he could not be further from the truth. Praying And waiting on God for His ordained partner for your life is what makes the difference between a marriage full of regrets and a flourishing marriage.
Here is the gist! There is no marriage without ups and downs. However, putting God in the center from the onset helps a great deal in putting things in their right perspectives. Also, getting yourself mentally, physically, financially, spiritually, and emotionally ready is the only way to have a healthy and stress-free marriage. This is to say that God has to be fully involved in the searching process and you, as a person, have to take certain steps to ensure that you are prepared for the new season. Marriage is no joke!
Unless the LORD builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; Unless the LORD guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain.
Psalms 127:1 NKJV
Prepare your outside work, Make it fit for yourself in the field; And afterward build your house.
Proverbs 24:27 NKJV
Yes! While waiting for your knight/princess in shining armor, you have to lay the groundwork for a good and godly union.
With that said, here are the things you can do while waiting for your God-ordained spouse:
- Invest in yourself: A pet peeve of mine is meeting people who only have conversations geared towards marriage. Marriage is good. But there is more to it. For it to work, you have to intentionally invest in yourself. I mean, it is not all about getting hitched to someone. What are you also bringing to the union? The Bible says it; “He who finds a wife/husband finds a good thing.” If you are good, then you are value adding. Waiting for the right partner? Dress well, speak fluently, have personal goals and aspirations, cultivate good financial habits, and read godly books on marriage and psychology.
- Pray more: If you have not been fervent in prayer, the searching/waiting season is the perfect time to buckle up. Marriage is life-altering. Hence, you need God fully involved in the process in order to make the right choice. Continually seek God’s face and lead on the issue and see him direct your steps.
- Refuse to settle: In a relationship that does not cut it for you? End it! Most times, after waiting for quite a while, we tend to want to accept the available best. It should not be so. God gives good and perfect gifts. If you are yet to meet your gift (husband/wife), it means that God is still wrapping up the gift for you. Instead of settling, thank God for the wonderful gift He is bringing your way.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.
James 1:17 NKJV
- Speak what you want to see: While waiting on God for your husband/wife, be sensitive to the Holy Spirit and confess only faith-filled and edifying words. In essence, speak what you want to see. If you want a tall husband/wife, say it. At first, it might feel weird but you are speaking by faith and with time, your tall husband/wife will find you. Remember, the power of life and death are in the power of the tongue. Therefore, avoid speaking negatively over your life.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit
Proverbs 18:21 NKJV
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