From Ciara: Love Lessons On Finding The Right Partner

Everyone hopes to get love right, once and for all. Although, that is not always the case. For some, they might get it right the first time. For others, it might take two to four break-ups to get love right. Whenever I think of a powerful woman who got love right, the Grammy award winning Ciara comes to mind. Always serving wife goals! One look at her, and you can tell that she is where she is meant to be. Although it was not always that way. It took a lot of heartaches for her to meet her God-ordained husband/partner, Russell Wilson. 

Considering all she had to go through to get to this point, it seems as though, finding the right partner requires divine intervention. Which, if I am being honest, I think it does. This is because finding the right partner or spouse is not like buying a pair of jeans you can return if it does not fit. It entails meeting someone who you are willing to spend the rest of your life with. So, it is quite saddening to see people who thought they might have found love, end up in court rooms or with shattered hearts.

Therefore, in marriage or dating, it is only healthy that we apply wisdom and discernment. We should also strive to learn from those who have “gone, seen, and conquered” the relationship field.

For today’s post, let us look at the lessons I have learnt from Ciara’s love story:

1. Love yourself: Nothing can be truer than the phase “like terms attract”. Meeting someone who will treat you as you deserve, is a function of how you treat or love yourself. In other words, project the kind of love you give or take. In Ciara’s story, a case of self-love/care was breaking off a toxic engagement despite the opinion of others. Some might even think it foolish of her, being an unwed mother. Whereas it just showed that she knew her self-worth, loved herself, and was not ready to settle for anything less. And guess what? The right man came along.
2. Be open to making mistakes: In a culture where perfection is the new cool, mistakes are unacceptable. Consequently, there is no room for learning and evolving. In relationships, it is gainful to acknowledge your infallibility. By this, there is room for understanding, adjustments, “clear eyedness”, and growth.  It requires being humble enough to accept mistakes and grow from there. Even if it will result in a drastic change. As seen in the case of Ciara, a called off engagement 
3. Pray: One might ask, “why bother God for such things?” But they forget that the Bible admonishes us to ask, and we shall be given (Matthew 7:7). From what I garnered from Ciara’s epistle; it is evident that she asked God for the kind of man she wanted. Therefore, a key to finding the right partner is to invite God into the searching process. Be clear on what you want or wish to see too. And in no time, he/she manifests.
4. Breathe: To avoid disappointments and heartaches, it is in your best interest to take things one step at a time. Do not get me wrong! I am aware of all the thrills and sparks associated with meeting a likely-to-be partner. However, it is beneficial to pause, think, look, and observe. Do not rush into things that you might regret later. Hence, when it comes to finding the right partner, taking baby steps helps.

Regardless of how the relationship scene might look tough, we must remain positive and hope for the best. In addition, we can learn from those who have succeeded.