How long should you be engaged?

So this thought popped into my mind when I watched a short video yesterday and you may want to ask yourself – How long am I going to be engaged? Or where is that point where I say you know what keep the ring till I/you are ready…

Hey! Don’t go breaking someone’s heart. Really this should be some kind of question you ask before collecting a ring that’s if the euphoria of getting one in the first place allows you to ask this question. Sadly, more emphasis is laid on the kind of ring and the show off that follows after. You mean I can ask any question? Yes! after all, courtship is like a job interview where you ask questions and know if he/she is fit for the position (By God’s standard of course). To read further on making a perfect choice click here.

I can safely assume that when the ring was collected, you were definitely sure that this was who you wanted right? If not what’s that ring doing on your hand? Return to the owner. First of all, you have watched two world cups in your relationship (say eight years courtship) and then finally you get a ring and you are also about to watch the third one! I think it can be watched alone this time around! Or then again you have given her a ring and she keeps putting you on I am coming scale (*you have been placed on the I am coming scale). Actually, maybe she collected the ring because of the fact that she didn’t want to humiliate you or you probably asked her in public and she said Yes and didn’t really mean it!

These are worse case scenario’s by the way. No cause for alarm yet. I also know that some guys give the ring to hold on to this nice girl not really because they are ready (*gotten from a conversation with a young man). So I have information! Classified information 🙂 On the other hand maybe because they have heard you say several times “All my friends are getting married/engaged” (*I know you like the big rock on your hand) and the ring was to buy time or just save their neck from all the whinning either way you got a ring. What next?

Everyone has seen the ring on BBM, Whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram. We are waiting for the wedding too. So this ring says you are never going anywhere at least not yet. So here is my opinion as to why I don’t think the engagement period should be so long – you get so comfortable and may have the relaxed mindset that says we are going to get married anyway (*so we may as well do what married people do). In fact, you may have paid the bride price yourself by moving to his house.

It is more than the ring. If you like a ring – buy one! Don’t be short-changed because of a ring. During the proposal, he said “Marry me” not “Have a relationship with me”. Let me round it up by saying a relationship should have a defined path and both parties should state clearly what they want from the onset – Number of years before marriage precisely.

So how long do I think you should wear a ring?

1-year maximum or 6 months minimum (So don’t even give a ring or collect one if you are not ready or you won’t be for the next 1 year).

*If you love rings (which I think I do like them too) get one! In fact, my eye is on this purity ring place your order here

Let’s hear from you. How long do you think you would want to wear an engagement ring prior to your wedding?

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