How To Make New Friends In A New Church
Making new friends in a new church is not always a pleasant task. I mean, you are the new guy. Most times, it tends to gravitate towards awkwardness. However, it is decision one takes with caution and discernment. Though the church has Christians speaking tongues and walking in grace, not all Christians embody what godly friendship suggests.
Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”
I Corinthians 15:33 NKJV
Since it is important to be careful when making friends in a new church, how can one make friends in a new church?
- Look out for people who are genuinely born again with proof: As sad as it seems, not all Christians who are in the church are genuinely born again. Some of these people are regular church attendees who see church service as a weekly routine. If you must choose friends in a new church, be sure of their salvation. And, how can one be sure? By observing them at home as well as in the church. Your friends need a solid faith in Christ. So, even when their faith is tried, they still stand.
That the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ.
I Peter 1:7 NKJV
- Join a service unit in the church: Meeting believers with like mind is an advantage that comes with belonging to a service unit in the church. Although joining a service unit is to serve God, you can equally meet amazing people too. These people can uphold your faith in times of need and trials.
A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.
Proverbs 17:17 NKJV
- Join a Bible study: The Bible says that “iron sharpens iron.” If you want to make friends and experience growth in your Christian journey, then a Bible study group might be an option to explore.
- Attend church fellowship/small groups regularly: Be part of your church’s small group. It helps in meeting the right kind of people necessary for your spiritual growth. Do not just be part of these groups, actively do so. Make contributions and suggestions when necessary. Avoid bench warming. The Bible says:
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.
Hebrews 10:25 NKJV
- Be friendly: If you want to make friends, you have to be friendly too. Relax and do not be too uptight. You are in the midst of God’s people, and there is so much love to share.
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
Before you choose anyone as your friend in a new church, make sure there is a good testimony about them. For, in the mouth of two or more witnesses the truth is confirmed. Do not isolate yourself in your new church. Give love and receive love.
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