It is Time To Let Go Of Your Insecurities And Be Free
When we think about insecurities, what immediately comes to our mind is insecurities in relationships. We sometimes feel people experience insecurities only in relationships; this isn’t true. We experience insecurities in other aspects of life such as work, in school, among our peers, in the society, and so on.
Insecurities are simply feelings of inadequacies we experience concerning our abilities or capabilities in different areas of our lives. They are basically a lack of confidence or an uncertainty in one’s ability.
As a lady, I have had my fair share of insecurities. Insecurities about my looks, stature, my capabilities, in my relationships, and so on.
These insecurities used to creep up at different moments and they result into negative thinking and sometimes negative actions.
If you’ve always found yourself insecure, there are a number of things you can do to combat it.
First, you need to honestly take a look at the situation. Look at the situation from the standpoint of an observer if need be. You just got a gig but you are not sure you have the right skills to handle the job? Why not examine what the job entails and critically examine your skills. If they don’t match, do something about it. Learn, ask questions, match your skills with it. Trust me, you’d save a lot of time working on the solution than feeling insecure about what you can do. Turn the insecurities into motivation to make you become better.
Also, know that it’s not always about you. Yes, you read that right. You walk past a group of pretty girls with the perfect body shape and they start to giggle about something. What would you do? You don’t have to start feeling bad. What if they weren’t referring to you? What if they were giggling about what one of them did? Let us not allow our insecurities erode us of our peace.
You also need to stop over analyzing things. *Whew*. This can be really exhausting and funny at times. For instance, you chat someone up and the person doesn’t respond in time, let’s say for a day. You start to think, ‘Oh, he/she doesn’t like what I just said’, ‘Hmm, maybe he/she doesn’t want to chat with me’, ‘Or did I do something?’ This is exhausting. All these moments would have been expended doing great things than over analyzing a conversation.
Focus on your strengths rather than weaknesses. Lose a competition? It’s okay, how about signing up for competitions that accentuate your strengths? How about refining your skills so as to be able to win competitions that are relevant in your industries? How about focusing on getting better, rather than blaming yourself for the things you can’t do?
Lastly, remember – paranoia isn’t your friend. If you keep thinking something negative is happening to you or some people are doing something negative behind you back, how would you enjoy your peace? In relationships, for instance, it is better to see things the way they are, rather than assuming things that aren’t true. When one is paranoid, negative feelings and thoughts come up.
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