Top ten relationship killers and how to deal with them

INSECURITY

Another major relationship killer is insecurity. Wikipedia’s defines an in-secured person as: “A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value, and one or more of their capabilities, lacks trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary, and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by “going wrong” in the future. This is a common trait, which only differs in degree between people”. Insecurity in a relationship can be as a result your past relationship experience or as a result of an underlying situation in your relationship. A major cause of insecurity in a relationship could be a hanging Ex.

What to do: Address issues surrounding your insecurity, if it’s triggered by you partner ensure you communicate what he/she is doing to trigger this feeling. If the insecurity is coming from past experiences then you would have to remind yourself of the reasons why you are in the relationship and what makes them different from anyone who has let you down in the past. Also if you are the cause of your partner’s insecurity take steps towards making them feel secured or addressing their insecurities.